Let’s all agree to do one thing – Let’s not be mean to ourselves.
I love New Year’s Resolutions. I love the idea of starting fresh, setting goals and having the opportunity to feel like you are starting a new chapter.
I am not a fan of negative comments folks make towards New Year’s Resolutions, such as, that people will give up after a month, that nothing is going to change, etc. Even if that is the truth for the majority, let people live! Everyone has a starting point in every area of their lives, this very well could be the beginning of a life changing journey for someone.
So, if you are one of the people who do make resolutions, don’t pay any mind to the negativity of those who may not support the “new year, new me” mindset. Also, try to block out the biggest critic that you will come across when trying to better yourself: YOU.
Someone commented on a Curvy Millennial link on Facebook with an article entitled About That Diet You’re Planning to Start on Jan. 1- don’t do it, written by Colby Itkowitz, the lead anchor of the Inspired Life blog. It was an interesting read, not because of its’ argument to avoid making resolutions this New Year, but some of the information it included as to why making weight loss goals can lead to stress and conflict for many. One of the quotes from the article states that “The world is too hard as it is, without letting your pants have an opinion on how you are doing”.
I disagree. New Years Day or the third Monday in June – it doesn’t matter what the date is, your pants ARE going to have an opinion on how you are doing and inevitably, that opinion will be yours. Fact of the matter is, weight isn’t everything, but if your clothes are fitting a bit more snuggly than you would prefer, or you’re not feeling as if the number on the scale is the one that is healthiest for you, you have the right and the privilege to work towards changing these things. Is it hard? Yes. Is the world hard? Absolutely. But part of being an individual who is strong, well-rounded and able to persevere, is becoming someone who is able to conquer obstacles regardless of how long it takes and how difficult it may be.
Part of the struggle of being successful in achieving any goal is keeping a positive internal dialogue even throughout the difficult days. Those who are working to lose weight know that there are good and bad days; there are days where you feel as if this is the easiest thing you could ever do and then there are days when you feel as if you want to eat everything in sight and no amount of food can satisfy you. Through that though, it is important to remind ourselves that we are human, flawed and don’t have to be perfect in order to be successful.
Within Itkowitzs’ piece, she mentions a book entitled “When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies: Freeing Yourself from Food and Weight Obsession”, written by Jane R. Hirschmann and Carol H. Munter; the book points out how women use negative self-talk in regards to weight loss and food consumption. This is no surprise, women see it often in themselves and in their female relatives and friends; they make statements that are self-deprecating and seem to believe that if they just lost insert magic number here pounds, they will feel better.
Yes. I think you will feel physically better if you are taking care of your body and eating right. Actually, I know you will. I also think there is a pretty good chance that your confidence level will increase and your clothes will fit better. However, if you are looking for weight loss to eliminate all of your self esteem and body issues while being the key to your new found happiness – you’re going to be disappointed.
We have all been there, I know I definitely have many times: you indulge a bit too much, the scale doesn’t read the number you want it to or those pair of pants still don’t fit and you verbally beat yourself up over it. Why? Your negative self-talk isn’t helping you. It’s only making you less likely to get back on track or buckle down because now you’re feeling even worse about yourself. Try to speak to yourself as you would a close friend who is dealing with these challenges (unless of course you’re a crappy friend, then ignore this advice). Remind yourself of what you want, why you deserve it and what you can do and/or continue to do to get to where you need to be.
Be disciplined but don’t be mean to yourself: there is a difference.
Disciplined is following a healthy weight loss plan, avoiding eating outside of the set portions you created for yourself, going to the gym when your alarm goes off in the morning instead of pressing snooze. Being mean to yourself is referring to yourself as lazy, a failure, etc. when you happen to not stick to the exact plan you set out for yourself. I’ve said it 1000 times and I will say it again: whatever method you are following to get into shape and/or lose weight, should be tailored to what works for you and be followed with the understanding that you will have challenges and slip ups only because you are human.
With that being said, good luck to all those who have made weight loss and health related goals for the New Year or just in general – I know you can do it even if you still aren’t sure you can!