Sorry guys – I have to interrupt Chronicles of a Curvy Dater to talk about something that, I am sure, is plaguing us all.
I am in no way, shape or form a huge Lady Gaga fan. I used to listen to Bad Romance on repeat, stand on the wall of the Gay club while watching my friends dance to Poker Face and have a karaoke version of You and I in my itunes library…but I’m actually not a diehard fan.
Perception is reality and because she has encouraged society to see her as someone who struggled with bullying as a child and being this “black sheep” figure within her family – a lot of people have formed a connection with her, her identity and her music. While I don’t believe half the crap she says about her youth – if people are able to find some kind of peace within themselves as a result of her image and messages – more power to them.
Now, I am not going to go into whether you are fan or foe. I am indifferent. What I am not indifferent about is blatant disrespect towards women. So, I’m just going to go ahead and ask a quick question, no pressure, real fast…
What the hell is wrong with people?
So, a celebrity, who actually, may I add, has real talent, puts on a kickass performance and engages a stadium of people and we are going to focus on:
There are people all over Twitter, Facebook and other social media platforms talking about how they couldn’t focus on the performance due to Lady Gaga’s stomach, suggesting she needs to work out more and that she should’ve worn clothing that covered up her midsection.
When Madonna performed at the Super Bowl, she received a bunch of criticism that her arms were “too toned” and they “looked masculine”
Okay, so I want to get this straight: if you are too toned, your masculine. If you aren’t toned enough, your fat.
Um, so which is right?
Yunno guys, this isn’t the story of Goldilocks. You don’t go to one show and say “Gee, her skin is too toned” and the next – “Gee her skin is too flabby”. But these fools can’t seem to find the one that’s “just right”.
No wonder women struggle so much with their body image – a bunch of people are sitting around criticizing people with next to no fat about their fat. To the people doing this, if you have a wife that becomes pregnant or you become pregnant yourself, are you going to point out every ounce gained?
If the baby that results from that pregnancy is a girl, are you going to be weighing them day in and day out to make sure that they meet, what you believe to be, a perfect size?
I remember at my old job, there was this guy I worked with who was the type of person who would absolutely be the spokesperson for the Lady Gaga Stomach Shaming of 2017. One day I overheard him talking to a bunch of coworkers about a girl he used to date. He said that the deal breaker for him was that, one day, she ate a piece of food off of his plate and he thought to himself: “she’s 24 and it seems like she’s just letting herself go”.
I legit had to walk away and collect myself because I couldn’t believe that someone was saying this and that it was okay that he was saying it. I remember everyone’s response to comments like these, when I inevitably called him out on them or outwardly complained about them, were always “Oh, you know how he is”. Really? Oh. We know how he is?
Someone sexually assaults a person, mugs an individual, or, maybe, even murders someone…is it just like:
“Ohhhh, that’s just so and so, he sexually assaults people”.
“Ohhhh, that’s just so and so, he mugs people, that’s just what he does”.
“Ohhhh, you know so and so, he murders people, nothing you can do to change him”.
This type of behavior is not acceptable. It’s pure bullshit.
Listen to me very carefully (or read me very carefully), insulting the weight of a thin celebrity makes women, as young as little girl age and as old as elderly age, feel as if they are not good enough. Pointing out that a celebrity does not have a six pack when there is still absolutely NOTHING wrong with her body is nothing other than disgraceful.
So, those of you who have felt it was necessary to comment, insult and poke fun at a part of a woman that YOU believe is a flaw – get your life together, because I’m saddened for you on indescribable levels.
Those of you who have defended Lady Gaga – good work.
And for those of you who have felt intense insecurity as a result of insulting statements made about a beautiful woman’s body – please understand that your worth will never be determined by people who lack couth, good sense and, probably, any kind of companionship due to their horrible demeanor.
Oh and if all else fails – just remember: Baby you were born this way.